Tristan Amari & Ileana Gonzalez

Saturday, May 15, 2027St. Vincent School for Boys · San Rafael, California

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Ileana resting her head on Tristan's shoulder with green hills behind them

Our story

How we got here

Tristan and Ileana at a table with a resident at Oakmont of Novato, working on a puzzle
Our first photo together, back in our first jobs at Oakmont

Oakmont of Novato

Day two at the front desk

Tristan had been with the company for two whole days when they put him at the front desk by himself. People kept coming in, he had no idea what he was doing, and he spent the entire shift asking the activities assistant for help. That was Ileana.

About a year later, we'd become friends and started hanging out with a group from work. By then Ileana was the Activities Director and Tristan was the Business Office Manager, and the group hangouts slowly turned into just the two of us.

Tristan and Ileana goofing around with mustaches, his fake and hers made from a curl of her hair

Oakmont's movie theater

Just one more episode

There was never an official first date. It started with long days at work that kept stretching to 8 or 10 at night. Then came texting while we watched Game of Thrones, then phone calls while we watched Game of Thrones, then FaceTime while we watched Game of Thrones.

Eventually we were watching it side by side, the first time in the Oakmont movie theater after work. Somewhere along the way, it stopped being about the show.

Ileana and Tristan riding a scooter in Hawaii
Hawaii

Everywhere we can get to

Adventures, near and far

Somewhere between the first episode and the ring, we became a pretty good travel team. We've been to Hawaii, Texas twice, Portland, Santa Cruz and Monterey, taken a cruise to Mexico, and gone on ski trips to Tahoe. Closer to home, we've hiked just about every trail in Sonoma and Marin County.

But some of our favorite moments happen in our own kitchen, cooking dinner together.

Tristan and Ileana smiling as she shows her engagement ring
Just engaged

Viansa Winery & Sonoma Plaza

A year of working up the courage

After knowing each other for four years and dating for three, Tristan finally asked the question. He'd had the ring for over a year. It took him that entire year to work up the courage.

He asked at Viansa Winery, one of his first jobs and a place he worked for many years. Ileana had no idea. Then came a second surprise: both of our families were waiting on the Sonoma Plaza with an engagement party. Tristan's grandparents live just down the street, and his dad grew up there.

Tristan and Ileana smiling together at a dinner table

May 15, 2027

What's next

We can't wait to start this next chapter together: living under one roof, building our home, traveling to new places, and someday growing a family of our own. We're so glad you'll be there for the start of it.

Saturday, May 15, 2027

The day

  1. Ceremony
  2. Guests arrivePlease be seated by 3:15
  3. Nuptial MassOfficiated by Monsignor Dan Whelton, in the church
  4. Cocktail hour
  5. CocktailsDrinks and bites in the courtyard
  6. Reception
  7. Grand entrance & first dance
  8. DinnerBuffet style
  9. Toasts
  10. Cake cutting
  11. Dancing
  12. Send-off

Everything happens in one place, so once you park, you're set for the whole evening.

The ceremony is a Catholic Mass. Please plan to arrive by 3:00 so we can begin on time.

Times may shift slightly as we finalize details. We'll keep this page updated.

Venue

St. Vincent School for Boys

Tap the numbers on the map. Number 1 takes you inside the chapel, and number 4 takes you into the reception courtyard.

    Aerial map of St. Vincent's with numbered spots: 1 the chapel entrance, 2 guest parking, 3 the main driveway, 4 the reception courtyard, 5 overflow parking, 6 and 7 additional parking

    Ceremony & reception

    St. Vincent School for Boys St. Vincent Drive San Rafael (Terra Linda), CA 94903
    Parking
    Park in the main guest lot (2) next to the church. If it's full, overflow parking is up the east road (5), with more lots (6 and 7) just past the main driveway (3).
    Getting there
    Just off Highway 101 in north San Rafael. Open in Google Maps
    Arrival
    Please arrive by 3:00 PM and enter the church at the entrance marked 1 on the map. The Mass begins at 3:30.

    Where to stay

    Coming from out of town?

    We recommend staying near the Marin Civic Center, a short drive from the venue.

    Recommended

    Embassy Suites by Hilton San Rafael Marin County

    101 McInnis Parkway, San Rafael, CA 94903

    Right next to the Marin Center, with easy freeway access to St. Vincent's.

    Wedding party

    Standing with us

    Tristan's side

    • Gianni Best Man
    • Gavin
    • Gabe
    • Niccolo

    Ileana's side

    • Alejandra Maid of Honor
    • Arcellia
    • Brianna
    • Elizabeth

    Good to know

    Questions & answers

    What should I wear?

    Formal garden party. Think suits, dresses and florals. Parts of the evening are outdoors in the courtyard, so block heels or wedges are a good idea, and bring a layer for when the sun goes down.

    Are kids invited?

    Yes! Children are welcome. We'd love to celebrate with your whole family.

    What's for dinner?

    Dinner is served buffet style, so there's no meal to choose ahead of time. If you have a dietary restriction or allergy, let us know when you RSVP.

    Where do I park?

    The main guest lot is right next to the church entrance. If it fills up, there's overflow and additional parking close by. See the venue map above.

    How long is the ceremony?

    The ceremony is a full Catholic Mass, so plan for about an hour. Cocktails start right after.

    Do you have a registry?

    Yes. Your presence is truly the best gift, but if you'd like to give something, you can find our registry here:

    View our registry on MyRegistry

    Photos

    A few of our favorites

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